This week, apparent comedian Daniel O’Riley killed of his so-called ‘character’ Dapper Laughs, a Vine sensation that quickly gained 575,000 followers, who happily watched him parade the streets, claiming to have made many a lucky female, “proper moist” and releasing such singles as; ‘Take It To The Base’.
With sold-out stand up tours and an ITV2 show, Dapper Laughs: On The Pull, why would O’Riley decide to put to bed his famous, cheeky-chappy character? Could it have been his desire to work on something else, to stretch his comedic wings? Or could it be to do with the string of offensive, abusive and dangerous ways in which he degrades women throughout the entirety of his work? It would be the latter.
Yep, Dapper Laughs’ hopes at a second series on ITV2 were quickly dashed as a hoard of outraged individuals watched open mouthed as footage of Dapper at one of his stand-up shows saw him telling a female audience member that she was “gagging for a rape” as well as making his audience laugh by announcing; “Go down to the shops, get some rope, bit of duct tape, rape the bitch, well done, see you later”.
His trivialization of rape and violence towards women has enraged many and there’s no doubt his latest actions have caused a final nail in the coffin effect to Dapper’s career but what is more shocking perhaps, is the ‘lad culture’ in which this behavior has become the norm.
The infiltration of lad culture is something that’s been on the rise since the late 1990’s and has since creeped into normal society in the darkest of manners. All too often are we seeing University men with ‘to-do’ tick lists on a neon t-shirt with ‘Fuck A Fresher’ being on of their most important requirements for the night. Surely, this kind of competitive, ‘lad’ behavior is putting young men and women in danger of forgetting their common sense and moral compass in order to gain bragging rights?
Recent scandal surrounding the ‘lad culture’ of today’s youth is the shocking discovery that a group of Liverpool Medical Students were conducting a ‘rape play’ that completely downplays the horrific nature of rape, justifies violence against women and glorifies misogyny. It seem’s that this kind of dangerous mentality is becoming very real and very frightening. Much like the Dapper Laughs scandal, more often than not, rape and violence against woman are all too often the butt of sick jokes that dig deep into the psyche of vulnerable people. Hearing this hideous action being justified and accepted, is only solidifying the victim blaming society we live in.
It would be foolish to say that this ‘lad culture’ is the only cause for misogyny but it seems fairly clear that this pseudo masculine sense of humor that is being drilled into young men is far more damaging than once perceived.
One can’t help but fear that while we’re making huge strides in feminist rights, we’re forgetting to teach the very basics of gender equality and that is to stop abusing women and making it so easily available to do so. When men like Dapper Laughs are given a television show to glorify rape and when convicted rapists are thrown back into a public life of fame and football, we are telling young men and women that rape and the abuse of women is a natural occurrence. How can this be right?
Another frightening example of male, ‘lad’ perspective becoming hideously misogynist is Swiss-Born so-called ‘pick up artist’, Julien Blanc. Blanc has found his way into the headlines by holding despicable seminars on picking up women, which frequently feature methods like; ignoring what they’re saying, treating women like targets to be met, playing women like they’re games, imitation, emotional abuse and general disgusting behavior to get women to sleep with him and his students. Here’s an example of one of his seminars.
This foul, possessive mentality over women is exactly what is wrong with lad culture in general. Luckily, many men and woman are fighting hard to keep Blanc out of the country so that he cannot spit his poison out at anymore pathetic followers. However, this doesn’t heal the women that have already been affected by his backwards way of thinking.
Both men and women need to take responsibility for their attitudes towards each other and understand the kind of catastrophic effect this type of mentality has on feminism. While there are still people with these attitudes, there will never be equality. Educate yourself, educate each other. Men and women together.